Friday, January 9, 2015

Personal Values...


A personal value is absolute or relative and ethical value, the assumption of which can be the basis for ethical action. A value system is a set of consistent values and measures. A principle value is a foundation upon which other values and measures of integrity are based.
Value (personal and cultural) - Wikipedia

Personal values are the rules we accept by which we choose to live our lives...  The agreements we accept as OUR truths.  Some things are true no matter what, and are not subject to option or philosophy.  Examples:  Water is wet...the sky is blue...Halle Berry is HOT! (Lol ;)  ... but what about "personal" values.  The things that are true and constant TO YOU?  I'm curious to explore this topic with those willing to share!

Are your values ones that YOU endorse and chose, OR were they given to you?..,and do you willing (and often times blindly) accept them because it's "just what you were taught"?...or do you endorse a belief system that is of YOUR choosing?

Do (or did) your values and personal agreements come from a source?  Some believe their source is their own heart and soul.  Some believe their source is God.  Some say alignment with the Universe.  Others believe their source is simple education and intellectual exploration.  Plenty of sources and personally...I believe in all of those "sources"..!!  The sources from which our personal values and agreements are formed and accepted.  Regardless of your "source"...the end results are a set of personal values.  The rules by which we will live our lives.

They say that true happiness is obtained by adhering to, and living in alignment with ones' core inmost values...

Will you please share with me?  What are YOUR values by which you have chosen to live your lives?  Are you true to them?

Friday, December 26, 2014

Older... The storm inside is beginning to dissipate.

The storm inside is beginning to dissipate and leave me.

"Spirit Of A Storm"

"There's a spirit of a storm in my soul
A restlessness that I can't seem to tame
Thunder and lightning follow everywhere I go
There's a spirit of a storm in my soul

Oh, maybe it's just the way I am
maybe I won't ever change
There's a spirit of a storm in my soul"

Kenny Chesney (Lyrics)

This song use to speak to me so much, and represent what I often felt as a younger man.  I didn't understand it much and often was scorned (even shamed) for verbalizing my connection with this song.  Where this storm comes from and why it rages inside the hearts of men is not something to be ignored.  If the origin of his storm goes ignored, then the storm can cause such destruction and pain to himself and those around him.  This storm can even cause a man to throw EVERYTHING away, and bring even the most accomplished man to his knees (perhaps even to his own death)... The storms will rage inside until understood, accepted, and faced!  

Young boys are filled with such wonder and visions of grandeur.  There is no doubt in their minds and hearts that they WILL be a professional ball player, the astronaut, or The President.  Growing, dreaming, and BELIEVING in the greatness of life.  

The storm begins inside for every young man when something happens that teaches this boy that the world is not as he once believed it was... He is let down and so deeply wounded by this realization and he loses that childlike belief... He becomes less than he dreamed he would one day be.  

He spends his time fighting and slaying the dragons of life...thinking this will make him feel good enough.  The next promotion, then next woman, the next conquest....Searching for that feeling of being good enough, strong enough, and worthy again...  No matter what the accomplishment, he can't ever find that feeling of content satisfaction and peace.  

Some submit to a lives of settling...being "grown up" and forgetting childhood dreams...never dreaming again..."welcome to the real world" people say to him...Giving up on dreams long ago, and being told those are just "silly fantasies".  

Mid life... he realizes that his life is halfway over, and looks around seeing that "this is NOT what I had in mind"... Wanting to prove he's still "got it" and is still young...he takes rash measures and goes out and buys that sports car, perhaps even throws his life and family away for "the younger girl"...always reaching for those feelings of youth.  Clearly he will never find that youthful perception that was once his... "THERE'S A SPIRIT OF A STORM IN MY SOUL"...  It rages and rages on, and he will never know why...

I, I've just turned yet another year beginning to feel less of "the storm"...Is this what happens as we men get older?...wiser?...more calm?...  I've been to the circus and I've seen the strings...or the lies and the facade.  Do we finally begin to realize what's real, and what's a lie?  Do we begin to realize that most things are not what society wants us to believe?  I guess I am beginning finally see more for myself what is real (to me) and what is empty.  

I try to go and remember what I once knew as boy...I believed once in the goodness of people.  I believe once that I were worth it.  I forgave easily and loved quickly because that's the way I was made.  "Become as a little child"..."Get in touch with that inner child"... stop looking for happiness from an external source, and realize that I have everything I need inside this heart of mine to be complete and whole...  

I admit that sometimes that feeling of "the storm" comes back and flows heavily through my veins, and sometimes so ferociously way too real!!....but lately...not as much!  

Here's to getting older...hopefully wiser...and so much more calm!

What are your thoughts?  

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

The Creators in each of us...

 "Ask yourself whether the dream of heaven and greatness should be waiting for us in our graves - or whether it should be ours here and now and on this earth."  -  Ayn Rand

Why wait to be creators of worlds in some off and far off distance place in the afterlife...?  I once read the worlds "God lives in you....AS you." (Eat, Pray, Love)  It was an interesting thing to sit and think about.  We are taught as we grew that we are children of the creator.  A significant part of the universe and all things are connected.  So if the creator of all things lives in me, AS me...and I possess direct characteristics of said grand creator, then I should learn to create NOW...and not wait until somewhere beyond the grave.

It IS ours' to create the life we wish to live, to surround ourselves with those that we WANT in our lives, and to chose and execute our plans to live the life we want.  This is the time to live and BE!..  To create and build!..  To "LIVE", and not just "endure"...

In a Stephan R. Covey conference that I attended about a year ago, I heard this quote...:

"Creation happens twice.  Once in your mind, then in the physical sense."

I love that!  I makes me be so much more careful and conscious of my thoughts.  Our minds are the drawing boards of life...  What we chose to think and dwell on, grows.  We MUST fill our thoughts with empowering and uplifting things, and allow the positive to rule our minds, and our hearts.  Our emotions are typically the fruits of our very own thoughts.  Thoughts are the roots...emotions are the fruits.  If you're feeling sad and depressed, change your thought process!  The origin of creation (while here on earth) is in our thoughts!

I believe it our choice to wake up every day and chose to contribute and create, and if it's important enough to us,...we WILL find a way.  If not, we WILL most likely find an excuse.
Be prayerful and meditative as you seek guidance to that what is created is in harmony with all that serves us in a positive way!

I always welcome your thoughts...

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